Integrating the therapy world , yoga world and judaic world sometimes feels difficult and other times it feels seamlessly n’sync. Recently yoga teachers of mine have been suggesting things like – “support the tiredness” or “love the critic”. A Rebbetzin whose podcasts listen to mentioned that accepting the challenges of reality and our flawed nature is a high level respect. I have been really heartened by these mutually supportive statements. I have found opposing these natural elements of the ebb and flow – has left me frustrated and embittered. Another reason I felt heartened is because this method of supporting the defense is congruent with the initial steps in forming a healthy trusting relationship- at least from a humanistic therapeutic standpoint. The step of supporting whatever arises wherever a person is joining.
Befriending whatever behavior arises in the moment and allowing this as a jump off point communication is an expression of respect. Meshing with and moving with the direction of the arising situation , emotion or behavior can leave an opening for the block to naturally open up for alternative possibilities.
So when I hear a critic whether internal or external- recognizing it, saying “hello” and offering a solid appreciation for whatever it is; may be the most therapeutic and unifying way to respond across the board. At the very least I am inspired to put this theory to work and see what emerges in my little fish bowl.
