I have a particular affinity for working with couples.
I see the couple as the experts on their lives. Many romantic partnerships push our pain buttons as well as our healing buttons. Most of the couples who come for sessions love each other, but they are stuck in hurtful patterns that often spiral out of control and leave folks feeling lost, misunderstood and angry/hurt.
I work with whoever is motivated for change and sometimes this is one partner before another and sometimes only one partner comes in to do “couples work”. My job is to ask the questions that get the partnership rolling in a way that empowers the couple to have more choices with how to interact and manage problems. Often times the work is to unpack the current problem cycle, shift the communication and work with whatever is interfering (whether it be past experiences or conflicting views for the future, to name a couple of common challenges).
